50 Shades Of For Goodness Sake

With all of the publicity about the anti-women side of 50 Shades of Grey, I decided to watch it with a girlfriend and find out what all of the fuss was about.

I have to say, I was neither shocked nor disgusted by this film but what I was shocked by was the media attention to it...I DO NOT SEE THE BIG DEAL!!!

Peo

She knows what she is getting in for right off the bat and she is the one who makes the rules...the scene with them having the meeting about the contract; she says what she doesn't want to do and he complies. He asks her to stay, she says no, and he lets her go.

He buys her nice things....this does not mean he is controlling her, I would LOVE to get new clothes, a new car and a laptop and anyone who says they wouldn't is lying. This does not mean she is whoring herself out to him, in fact, she desperately tries to give the stuff back yet he won't accept them. We know he doesn't do the whole love thing, maybe this is his way of showing he cares. Accept it with good grace love!

She ASKS to be shown what the 'worst' is...not in a 'she's asking for it' kind of way as in she ACTUALLY says "I want you to show me the worst it can be, so I know". He asks her 3 times if this is ACTUALLY what she wants, and each time she says yes. Afterwards, she tells him he will never do that to her again. Not asks, tells! 

She then walks away. 

She. Walks. Away. 

This is a powerful thing for a woman with her Cryptenite, someone who she would do anything for. When you can walk away from that, it sucks and you hurt, but you also feel very much empowered, I know, I have done it! At the end of the day, you may not agree with S and M or the story, but maybe this is what the film is actually intended for; make women and men alike stand up and say "this is not what we want to be, we don't want our sons treating women like this and we don't want our daughters to feel they have to". Maybe this film has brought something great...maybe this film gets people talking about the problems of gender inequality. And maybe it is just a film that some people didn't like and others did.

Either way, hats off to the granny's out there buying rope. You know who you are...

The Day Of The Grinch

The only day of the year where I can guarantee you I will be a MASSIVE Grinch is Valentines day. Reason? It does my head in! 

A holiday invented by Clintons to make couples feel they have to spend money on each other to prove to the rest of the world how much they love each other. What the hell that is about I will never know! 

Now a lot of you may now be thinking "wow, she must be a single and lonely girl" and in fact that is far from the case; I am in a very happy and loving relationship and it is safe to say, my lovely boyfriend hates the fact that I hate Valentine's day which shocks me because surely it is a good thing because he doesn't have to buy me cliches of jewellery, flowers and chocolate? Mer.

The real reason I hate this crappy day so much is because of the people who don't have a partner today. Everyone has been that person at least once in their life where their friends are receiving roses at school and flaunting it in your face and you feel like the only one who hasn't received them. So I made a pact never to celebrate Valentines day with a boyfriend. Instead, I invite my girlfriends round to watch movies and remind them that just because they don't have someone to kiss goodnight it doesn't mean they aren't loved.

Call me a pessimist if you want but I don't see it that way. I feel the pain of those who feel unloved and alone and want to remind them they ARE loved!! Please don't feel alone today as I LOVE YOU!!! And remember, when all your friends are spending all of their money on crap cards and flowers and chocolates and goodness knows what else, you are sat at home watching horror movies and bingeing on chips dipped in chocolate and you don't have to share it with anyone!! 

And just to end it in a positive...... Have a big kiss from me :) 

Once A Cheat, Always A Cheat

My name is Charlie and I am a cheat.

I can't help it. I cheat. I food cheat!! When I was told I could no longer eat Wheat, Lactose and Mushrooms I was completely devastated. I know that sounds very drastic but imagine your favourite foods in the world and then you get told you can't have them anymore. 

IT SUCKS!!!

Tonight I was alone in the house, I had just won £20 for a competition at work and wanted to treat myself so decided to order a pizza with mushrooms. And garlic bread with cheese. Safe to say, 2 hours later I am feeling like ASS!!!

This is an addiction. I want to stop but sometimes it is just too hard to say no. 

My name is Charlie and I am a cheat.